Social media, email and 25 days to go

There are just 25 days to our wedding.  Crazy.  In the next few days I need to ensure that I have RSVPs for EVERYONE. That's 240 people total- about half of which have replied already.  I promoted RSVPing online via Facebook and through the Wedding Wire email option.  Both were a great help and I did receive some responses.

What has been done in the last week:
met with two event rental vendors and received quotes from both
met with the musician for our wedding and confirmed the song my cousin will sing at our wedding
check evite to couples shower hosted by grooms aunt and uncle- to see who has responded
update registries so everyone has plenty of options to choose from and range in price points
rescheduled engagement session to Tuesday the 10th because of rain out on Saturday April 30

What I still need to do this and next week:
accept contract for event rentals- much of this will be determined by how many RSVP
give head count to caterer
hold 2 meetings with officiant
meet with church wedding coordinator
think about and email musician about prelude music
dress fitting with bridesmaid
couples shower on Saturday
start sending thank yous
submit revised paperwork to church for reception
groom needs to find my wedding band
find shoes for big day
pow-wow with friends over bachelorette party
design ceremony programs and print
finish compiling wedding party gifts
obtain the marraige license
send wedding day schedule to wedding party and vendors
complete DJ information form online
get flowers to wedding cake vendor

should I go on?

The only funny thing about this is last night the groom and I watched How I Met Your Mother- Season 2 disc three- the wedding episode.  Neither of us had laughed so hard (you might even say) ever. Probably because its all of our worst fears on display. As long as Randy doesn't get "cool guy" tips and buzz his hair right down the middle... we'll be fine.

Invitations and RSVPs.

6 weeks before the wedding is supposed to be the latest you should send wedding invitations per traditional etiquette.  Once I started printing the insert cards myself-and my mom and I had to correlate so she could help with stuffing the envelopes and putting everything together- I knew it was going to be close. 
The RSVP date was precisely 1 month from the wedding date.  In reality, I could have made the RSVP date May 1- but worried that people may procrastinate.

If you haven't yet RSVP'd to the wedding- it's not to late and we would love to share our special day with you!  If your card is in the mail- perfect.

If you think that some how I inherintly know that you will be there or won't be there-I don't know (ESP was never my forte).  Please just send your card or go to our website to RSVP.  Next week at the very latest.  Otherwise you may not have a seat or a meal or there may not be enough cake... or...or....or..........and then the bride fainted because she was in a panic.

Let's make sure we can all enjoy the day. :)

Thank you!

29 days to go...

There's a lot to do in the next month! There are still vendors to choose- specifically for event rentals.  I had two meetings lsat week for event rentals- today I received the second RFP.  It's decision time- with so little time remaining- decisions must be made.

We have two meetings left with our Pastor- Jeff Lindsey of Colonial Church.  He knows both of us sinec we are members and has been very supportive of us throughout our relationship with eachother as well as our relationshpi with God. 

RSVPs- are trickling in and we have received only 1/3 to 1/2 of the approx. 240 that were sent. If you haven't RSVP'd yet- you can do so on our website: weddingwire.com/millieandrandy.  Email millieandrandy@gmail.com or message me on facebook if you don't have the password to get in.  If you have our save the date handy- check for the password on the back.

There are headcounts to provide for the caterer, event rentals (dance floor, chairs, napkins, table clothes are all affected by this number), cake, and number of programs to print; music selections to provide to the DJ,  music selections to choose for the ceremony, wedding bands and other accessories to buy, gifts for the bridal party, a timeline to create for the wedding weekend so that everyone in the wedding will know where they need to be and when, duties to assign and delegate, a marraige license to secure, final gown fittings and for some- first gown fittings...

Where is my paper bag?  I think I am going to hyperventilate.

In short- please RSVP.

If you have RSVP'd- thank you!

If you know  you're coming- please let us know so that everyone can enjoy themselves on the day.  That way everyone can eat and I won't have to worry about dividing 80 chicken entrees 3 ways.

Registering

With 30 days to go to the W-day- there is a lot to get done.  One of them being the registry.  It's fun to think of all the gifts that we may receive as people wish us well in our future together.  It's difficult to find a common ground on certain things.  My fiance doesn't see the point of having fine china or cloth napkins- he thinks of it as just more stuff.  I can see his point.  At the same time, I think about dinners with family and friends- I remember my childhood and setting out the good china for Easter, Christmas, birthdays and celebrations of the like.  I've always thought of registering as being more of a fun activity- where you can envision what your home will look like - and making the space you reside your home.  It's been a fine line to walk.  Hopefully our relationship will survive our differing opinions on the registry.  My fiance, who prides himself on being positive and liking to surround himself with positive people has repeatedly said "no one is going to get that for us".  My response has been- our registry is a wish list- we may not get everything and that's ok (really it's ok!).  It's taken some time and patience to sort through the registries and how to handle them.

When we have differences of opinion in wedding preparations I try to remind myself that it is good preparation to build our conflict resolution skills for later in marraige and in life. 

Dress Shopping on Saturday.... with a road trip

This was originally written back in October- but somehow I forgot to post it.

I"m excited but nervous about tomorrow. I, along with my mom and good friend, are headed to Rochester to look at wedding dresses.  I"m going to check out Jenni's Bridal Boutique and Mestad's.  I have appointments at both.  My good friend who is coming with is pregnant- so I hope we don't wear her out!  My mom,  in her own words can be domineering.  I'm not worried about being a Bridezilla, but I'm worried about her turning into Momzilla.  I think my best bet is to stick with my plan of paying for my dress myself since she has so much on her plate right now.

I can only hope that she doesn't get too domineering and will listen to some common sense tomorrow.  I'm holding my breath  for now- we'll see how it goes I guess! 

I like to think I'm fairly logical in how I think about wedding budget, what's within my means to pay for things and what not.  When my fiance, my mom, and myself were all sitting down together and the conversation turned to wedding plans- things started spiraling out of control.  She later apologized, but I am concerned about a repeat performance.  I just want everything to go smoothly and I don't want to end up fighting with my own mother. Sad.

I have to remind myself not to put too much energy into stressing out about things that haven't happened and things I have no control over.

We'll see how it goes.  I'm pretty sure I won't be ordering anything tomorrow to avoid a blow out.

d-day... dress day

Today, I am so nervous. Today my mom and I are picking up my dress from mestad's in Rochester. My mind is filled with what-ifs. What if they ordered the wrong size? What if I don’t like it? What if my dress was given to someone else?

Then, there's the whole subject of making sure we get down to rochester and back to pick up the kids in time. The daycare closes at 4.30pm.

Im stressed and I should have ordered my coffee decaf.

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Florist... part 2

After a less than thrilling experience at a floral shop (see preceeding Florist entry).  My fiance and I have opted to try out Bellagala's florist.  The only florist left for our wedding date was Jennifer F.  That is fine with me though- she has some very stunning work on her online portfolio. (LOVE IT!  DId anyone see the boquet with the tulips??? I happen to love tulips and I love what she did there!)  All we had to do was put down our $200 deposit and now we meet with her.  If, per chance, we don't like her work, prices etc- we can get our $200 back within 14 days of our meeting with her.  Not too shabby!

I wish I had a better understanding of Belagala earlier on- it's really helpful to have the online payment system, reservation system and all of that.  I have tried to contact countless other florists, and they either didn't write back or the communication just came to a halt.  OR in the case of the flower shop we went to- just poor communication between employees leading to a poor customer experience.