Registering

With 30 days to go to the W-day- there is a lot to get done.  One of them being the registry.  It's fun to think of all the gifts that we may receive as people wish us well in our future together.  It's difficult to find a common ground on certain things.  My fiance doesn't see the point of having fine china or cloth napkins- he thinks of it as just more stuff.  I can see his point.  At the same time, I think about dinners with family and friends- I remember my childhood and setting out the good china for Easter, Christmas, birthdays and celebrations of the like.  I've always thought of registering as being more of a fun activity- where you can envision what your home will look like - and making the space you reside your home.  It's been a fine line to walk.  Hopefully our relationship will survive our differing opinions on the registry.  My fiance, who prides himself on being positive and liking to surround himself with positive people has repeatedly said "no one is going to get that for us".  My response has been- our registry is a wish list- we may not get everything and that's ok (really it's ok!).  It's taken some time and patience to sort through the registries and how to handle them.

When we have differences of opinion in wedding preparations I try to remind myself that it is good preparation to build our conflict resolution skills for later in marraige and in life.